Elements of a Healing Funeral

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Music

Music sets the tone and brings emotions to the forefront. In many ways, music says what words cannot. We often shy away from expressing emotions, but don’t be afraid to invite people to express their grief. Consider using music as an avenue to bring out what people are thinking and feeling.

Readings

Readings also invite mourners to express their emotions while honoring the unique spirit of the one who has died. Has a poem, lyrics, or movie quote just spoken to you? These words can easily be used as a reading and can add a deeper dimension to the service. 

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Visitation/Reception

The visitation or reception is a time for everyone to gather and express support and sympathy. If you choose, the body may be present, allowing mourners to physically say goodbye one final time. This element also offers a special time for personalization - where you can tell the story of a loved one’s lifetime. 

Gathering

The gathering is an opportunity for friends and family to come together after the service to share stories and to support each other. This event may occur at the funeral home, an event center, someone’s home, or even a local restaurant. The point of a gathering is to bring people together to share stories, remember a loved one, and connect (or reconnect) with people.

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The more elements you can incorporate into a funeral, the more meaningful and healing it will be. When people and ceremony come together, meaning emerges and healing begins to unfold. Now, you have all the tools you need to plan an element-rich funeral!